tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4053322288552308267.post2985930706278212395..comments2023-05-23T06:08:10.791-07:00Comments on Sikhi Thoughts: familyGupt Singhnihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13711482184997082417noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4053322288552308267.post-83615904375036004152007-06-24T20:04:00.000-07:002007-06-24T20:04:00.000-07:00A very nice point raised. My understanding of sikh...A very nice point raised. <BR/><BR/>My understanding of sikhi tells me that my family include not only the people who are my relatives but all the human beings( including non-sikhs, people who do bad deeds, criminals or whatever one think is a worst person) are my family( Ref. Na Ko beri nahi baigana). when Bani says that your family will leave you it means that family is exactly going to be like the people who live around us and are not concerned about us. And this is going to happen at the most difficult time of our life i.e, when we are dying. It means that they will leave me when I am no more useful to them. Dead body is not a useful thing. People even leave their living relatives when they are not useful. <BR/><BR/>So when we say family i understand two things<BR/><BR/>1)I should be so acceptable that i have similar feelings for every person like I feel for my brother or sister. Now I have more love to share. When I see a stranger it gives me the pleasure of seing my brother. I am more happy person now. When I have that level of love and kindness I would realise that people who are tied just in close relations have false ties. <BR/><BR/>(Easy to say but Hard to do e.g,can a mother feed an unrelated kid when her own baby is hungry? Own is own , more love for own. isn't it?)<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>2)I should not be driven by emotional attachment towards my family to extent that I am pulled away from my Satguru. e.g, to fulfill the needs of our family we work so much that we don't have time to go to gurudwara/ do daily banis OR as in above example to feed my hungry kid I grab the food from others hungry kid. When i see every body ( family/non family) with same eye then it is less likely that i would do that.<BR/><BR/>So the bottom line is keeping a balance. Love your family but not blindly. when spending(money/love/time/attention/care) for our own family keep an eye on the needs of unrelated but more needy as everybody here has Wahegurus jot in him. <BR/><BR/>I am looking forward for the level of spirtuality Bhai Kanihya reached, where no body is a stranger, no body is enemy, every face is Waheguru. <BR/><BR/>Dr. SinghAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08077590317903955177noreply@blogger.com